Supersize v’s superskinny

I watched a show on TV last night called Super sized v’s super skinny.
The concept of the show is just down right wrong.
You take a clearly really obese person (who generally knows something needs to change) and you take a clearly way too skinny person (who generally denies they have issues) and you put them together.
Now the skinny person is hardly going to be encouraged to eat when they are faced with an over eater of quite mammoth proportions.
The skinny person is given the generally bad diet of the supersized person and vice versa.
Neither are healthy diets.
Neither have healthy attitudes towards food.
Both need help.

I’m not sure they are being given the right help.
It’s ok to eat not overtly healthy once in a while but more importantly it’s not always necessarily what we eat it is the portion control we seem to have no control over.
We don’t have a biscuit – we have a packet.
We don’t share a take out – we order one each.
We don’t share cake we buy a whole cake.
And don’t even get me started on the fast food menus and portions out there.
Some of the eating habits on last nights show were hideous.
It’s so sad that people are being so under educated or care so little about themselves.
Either end of the spectrum is a true concern. The skinny end will get more attention and sympathy whereas the fatter end of the spectrum will get laughed at and told to stop eating but we have to remember in both cases it is deep rooted psychological issues that are normally at play.
Again highlighting my case for better life education and way better parenting skills.
Also highlighting the danger that is the media that we all buy into.

Ladies and gents – please eat but eat sensible, don’t be scared to see a psychologist or counsellor and don’t starve yourself to fit into those skinny jeans.
More men are developing eating disorders – could this be down to the rise in men’s health magazine’s? Just like the beauty myth with women……….
We need to develop healthier body issues – healthier images to feed to our children.
We need to stop saying it’s the norm’ or ok for a fully grown woman to have the body of a adolescent boy.
No man I know actually likes skin and bone on a lady – they all prefer curves and someone that isn’t afraid to eat rather just pick at their food. You will have more energy as well and your moods will be better.
This works both ways, if you gorge on high sugar foods you will also have the extreme crashes that leave you unable to do things. Once your weight gets too high you will find everyday tasks a thing of the past and become a prisoner in your own skin.
These are serious concerns.
More and more women around me seem to have thighs smaller or as small as their calves, it’s not right for 99% of them.
I wonder if this is why there is an increase in complicated births and the amount of women suffering polycystic ovaries?

http://helpguide.org/mental/binge_eating_disorder.htm

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Eating-disorders/Pages/Introduction.aspx

http://www.mind.org.uk/help/diagnoses_and_conditions/body_dysmorphic_disorder

Advice for the young at heart?

We’ve probably all felt a little shy or a little tongue tied as a kid haven’t we, felt a little nervous on our first day in a new job but somehow when you become and adult you are just meant to be ok – you are meant to be witty and charming and have an endless supply of conversation starters and that’s how life is.
Advice is out there for teens but you don’t find much out there for the adult that needs help.
When you see how many people out there are on anti-depressants or are seeking medical help or are cowering in their rooms strangulated by phobias I think it’s about time an advice column was set up for those basic ‘teenage’ issues that follow you into adulthood and can creep up on you when you really think you’ve got it all together.

For me I’ve always been a bit unsure of myself. I had a childhood where I was brought up being told I couldn’t, shouldn’t and can’t rather than you can do anything child, it is what it is, but it does mould you. I grew into my own person and spread my wings and got over many hurdles. Then someone tried to crush them all. Their problem, not mine, but that’s the thing – some of those insecurities have stayed. I have a total phone phobia, I used to love having long like 3 hour long calls all the time on the phone with friends, but now when it rings my heart is in my mouth and I run the other way. I have this overwhelming urge of never feeling good enough, of feeling ugly. You can’t just get over these things, you can’t just brush them aside, and it’s hard for people to understand. Those that know me think I am ridiculous for thinking such things about me and say the sweetest things to me, those that don’t know me no doubt think I am awkward or maybe even rude, but if they only knew.
To walk into a crowded room – well once upon a time someone said I did it with such enthusiasm making everyone feel so welcome – but now – inside I am ready to puke. My ego tells you to look at me, all of you, everyone in the room look at me, but then you do and my heart stops, my throat swells and I wonder what is wrong with me.
I am sure, in fact I am positive I am not alone here.
When this world is putting more and more pressure on people and more and more people are cracking I think we should all losen up a little and learn to talk and help each other and know it’s ok to not feel great all the time and to sometimes, as an adult, to need a helping hand.